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Welcome to the launch of Innersophia Girl. This is a spin
off from Innersophia and a place where you can feel at home, and explore your alternativeness.

We invite you to take a look around,
if you feel offended please leave,
but if your eyes are open to the possibility of ghosts, goblins and
a touch of magic please
stick around.

Get in touch with your inner Sophia and be proud of who you are, everyone is different and you know what? That's the way we like it!!

"More than just a hip* knitting/crochet book: Fiber enthusiasts, DIY fashion
designers and other
dark-minded crafters alike will be inspired by the wide variety of cool, nontraditional projects, to try something new."

Mothering

How special a task is the one of the mother and yet how little is the mother role appreciated or given full recognition in our modern time?

We all have an earth mother and we all have a unique experience with this spiritually chosen mother, so it is always difficult to discuss mothering as a general concept because we are  intimately involved and  influenced by our direct perceptions of our own mother [sometimes not so good either].

As we grow into adulthood many of us in modern times are self reflecting, visiting psychotherapists and having rebirthing experiences with the result being overanalyses of the mother influence [or at least that’s my opinion].

It seems we are apparently in a current culture of ‘ poorly mothered adults’ with many of our adult stresses and inabilities being supposedly the effects of  our mother’s abuse , neglect, lack of intimacy, poor parenting skills or conditionings in childhood.

I am not disputing that there are very genuine cases of mothers deliberately ,or unknowingly, causing severe emotional, physical and psychological pain with life long effects, but I do wonder if mothers have just not been given the proper support, guidance and acknowledgement they need in order to function at their very best.

N.B – If you are the victim of mother abuse I am absolutely honouring and respecting your experience but I would suggest that you seek professional help if this article is disturbing to you.

My team and I thought it would be useful to provide a space for supporting the mothering role and looking into ways in which we can honour the mother in general...It can be dangerous, though, to create an ideal of the mother and then set about comparing our own mother with this ideal.

Poor mum will probably not come out too well because no one is perfect. Being a mother myself, I can certainly see many mistakes and my grown family seems to have delight in pointing these out from time to time –I might add it hurts!

There are certain common  mothering expectations like nurturing, loving, warmth, sacrifice, comfort, respect for our destiny path and joy in our existence, but we may ask on a constant basis , ‘why don’t mothers always have these wonderful qualities they are meant to give freely without condition? Aren’t we all entitled to receive these as our human rights?”

I think that current analysis trends and recognition of abuse as well as children’s rights are all bringing into the light our inadequacies as mothers.

But in defense of mothers, they are human, they have weaknesses, they get tired and bored, incessant chattering and bickering of children wears them down.

Partners expect mothers to be ready and willing for sex when they are just bone tired from a busy day. And what about illnesses, taxi driving, school trips, homework to oversee, and perhaps mothers are alone trying to manage children, fathering and a job in the world.

Financial distress adds to the picture and often there is a problem within the relationship, domestic abuses and invalidation of the importance of the mother.

Is there any other job as important as mother?I don’t think so .Does the mother /homemaker receive superannuation, does she receive the love she deserves and support of the community. If a mother is anxious in the supermarket because her child is having a tantrum is she treated with care or is she frowned upon for not managing that ‘little brat’. How often does a caring person offer to assist her with her groceries so she can care for her child?

I have always remembered a wonderful, elderly woman who, frail and ill, stopped to ask if she could help me carry my bags because my daughter was screaming about a packet of chips. She was like Mother Christmas with snowy white hair and a smile to melt the heart. My daughter looked at her and instantly stopped screaming. The power of a caring soul can bring peace.

When a child chooses a mother on earth from the heights of the heavens does this child know that this particular woman will have the ability to offer all these wonderful ingredients?

Is she going to be energetic, creative and emotionally available?
Is she well prepared and consciously choosing to receive this child? Or is she still only a babe herself with no understanding of the task ahead?

What about living conditions and family structure, country and climate where this prospective mother lives?

Family history and family shame or hidden secrets? Is she poor or wealthy, an alcoholic or drug addict? What about ethnic background and appearance?

And what about the angels helping to prepare the child and who will be a constant companion on earth? Will these angels be recognized or will they be disregarded?

Mmm all interesting questions I think we could ponder but I am sorry I don’t have the answers to these questions. Each  spirit looking to come to earth will make the decision, with the assistance of the angels, as to which conditions will be required for growth and learning on earth, aking into consideration all the above .

The earthly mother has human weaknesses and there has been quite a shift in recent years as to expectations of mothers, with materialism demanding that mothers work to assist the father with the financial support for the family.

It is not our intention to judge mothers who work outside the home for that is personal decision making within the home.

We do feel though that there is tremendous pressure on mothers as they invariably juggle their various tasks, often totally exhausted and without quality time with children, husbands, friends or self [God! who is that?]
So we intend to find some ways we can provide support and love for mothers who feel they are going crazy, are alone with their task and just want a listening space.

Or perhaps you are a grandma with an empty nest feeling, a grandma who is caring for the children or a grandma who has been disconnected from her family.

Please send us articles for review so that we can find what is missing in our community as support for mothers and grandmas.
There are, of course, many wonderful support systems but we are offering love and care, interest, appreciation and honouring of the enormous task of caring for a child in this world.

Our website is in its baby stage as we search for ways to bring awareness to spiritual input ,care of the earth and  general well being .We believe mothering to be the most important human role and therefore wish to honour this .

Love and care to mothers, good and bad.
Carla and the innersophiagirl team

Cradle verses for little ones

Lullaby, lullaby,
Shadows creep across the sky,
See, the sun has gone to rest,
Lullaby

Lullaby, lullaby,
Little one to dreamland fly
Till the morning sun awakes,
Lullaby

               Phyllis Garlick

 

Hush, hush  little baby,
The sun’s in the west
The lamb in the meadow
Has laid down to rest

The bough rocks the bird now ,
The flower rocks the bee ,
The wave rocks the lily,
The wind rocks the tree

And I rock the baby
So softly to sleep
It must not awaken
Till daisy buds peep .

 

No more work and no more play
Every toy is put away
Ended is the lovely day
Then –goodnight

Drink the milk all white and creamy
Have your bath all warm and steamy
Close your eyes all tired and dreamy
Then –goodnight

Through the window stars are peeping
From their holes the mice are creeping
Your white bed is soft for sleeping
Then –goodnight

Ruth Ainsworth

 

For the mother and child

Before birth 

As  this child comes down from heaven
Dear God watch over us both
Envelop us with your love and warmth
And deliver this child so precious to you
As I  receive this babe with love and with joy

 

Help me remember your interest and care 
So I can serve this child as you will me to do
I pray to give honour to your choosing of me
To nurture your child in this world for a time
Until the day your love calls one of us home .

               Anon